The week is in full swing and Mother’s Day is quickly approaching. I’m always excited to see what the hubs and kids will do, although they really don’t have to do or get me anything. Nonetheless, I’m always grateful because they think enough of me to want to do something special. Blessed to have them.
As I go through these days leading up to Mother’s Day, I can remember dealing with a severe medical condition called endometriosis during my teenage years. For years I was riddled with pain that no one should ever have to endure. I’ve come to learn this is a very common disease, especially for African American women. It wasn’t until I went off to college that I was actually diagnosed. I underwent surgery and life got better (thank God). The doctor told my parents and I there was a chance I would never have children. Of course that was heartbreaking because it was always my desire to have a family. I’m so very thankful for the three children God has allowed me to have. When I found out I was pregnant with my first child back in 2005, I was disappointed in myself because I was not married at the time. I felt I had failed my parents, but most of all, I had let God down. But God is forgiving and He allows us to start over and do better. He turned my mistake into such a blessing. For a long time I still beat myself up about it because I had a vision of how I wanted life to go, but ultimately, God was in control. He overturned what the doctor said.
Needless to say, no one can prepare you for the job and career of being a mom. There’s no textbook or assessment that can predict whether or not you will be successful. There are many days I want to give up and throw in the towel. Times I just cannot believe “my child” did that! Frustrated with the fact that I’m having to say for the second or third time to do something. But from the bottom of my heart, it is rewarding and I love seeing them grow.
On this upcoming Mother’s Day, I thank God for allowing me to mother Rayana, Tavares, and Takira. It is through them I learn unconditional love, patience, and forgiveness. I see me in them! My imperfections as a parent and child are shown through them, but because of that I have the opportunity to grow.
Remember, children are a GIFT from GOD!
Peace and Blessings to all who read this….