Is it OK to become so annoyed with your children you don’t want to talk or deal with them anymore? I’m inclined to say “yes”, but they’re mine and I can’t just throw them away.
If only there was a class I could have taken to prepare me for the times when my kids would talk back, roll their eyes, stomp away in anger, or slam their bedroom door. Maybe it would have provided me instructions on how to handle these situations better than I do now. Unfortunately, there was no such class before I became a mom, so I have to rely on memory of what my parents did, prayer, and of course, plain old common sense.
We all have those parenting woes and it doesn’t mean you are a horrible parent for not dealing with it in the most pleasant way. It just means you’re normal. Just the other day I totally went off on my son. He’s 9 years old now, but he needed an attitude adjustment and I was the right person to give it to him! I let him know he doesn’t own anything in our home and if it were not for me and my husband, he wouldn’t even have a home. It’s not a good quality trait to be ungrateful and think you are entitled. I mean my goodness, does it even cross a kid’s mind that they have what they have because they’ve been blessed to have it. Well, evidently, not that particular day in my son’s little 9 year old brain. I had to clue him in! That in no way diminishes my love for him. If I didn’t give him clarity and understanding, it would be my fault that he’s lost. Not on my watch!
Sometimes I think my kids have it out for us. I make my husband laugh when I say we’re outnumbered; it’s us against them! Three against two!
Kids can make you laugh and then turn on you and make you cry. They can be your best friend and days later become your worst enemy. They make you proud to be their parent and then there are times you totally want to disown them.
What I do know is that no matter what parenting woes I face, I wouldn’t change having my kids in my life. They give me purpose! I greatly enjoy the conversations we have and although there are truly times I want to disown them, I must admit, I’ve come to enjoy this thing called Motherhood. My kids don’t need a mom who’s trying to be politically correct and be what she “thinks” society demands of her. They need a mom who is down to earth, who doesn’t mind sharing her childhood experiences (both good and bad). Someone who will love them in spite of how they behave and who doesn’t toss them to the wind for making mistakes. That’s why motherhood isn’t about being perfect, it’s simply about loving your children unconditionally, through their imperfections (and yours), and teaching them to be the best person they can be.
1 Peter 4:8 Living Bible (TLB)
Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love makes up for many of your faults.