Forgive Yourself

This title sounds simple enough, right?  However, it is one of the hardest things to do.  Forgiving yourself is a critical step in realizing you are not perfect.

What are you forgiving yourself for?  As I write this post, I am self reflecting and remembering the reason I wanted to take this journey.

I need to forgive myself for yelling at the the kids when they made a mistake.  I need to forgive myself for being embarrassed in the store when my son was running and being loud.  I need to forgive myself for taking it personally that my kids didn’t like the dinner I prepared last night.  I need to forgive myself for not having the flat tummy I had pre-pregnancy (I do have 3 kids!).  I need to forgive myself for having a career and growing professionally.  I need to forgive myself for not having a squeaky clean home.  I need to forgive myself when my girls hair isn’t the cutest.  I need to forgive myself for all those things I have conjured up in my mind and feel like I’m being judged on.  I need to forgive myself for not being perfect.  For making mistakes in my parenting.  For not trusting my instincts.  For being weak and not disciplining consistently.  For allowing the kids to have way too much sugar!  For just being a mom who’s learning as she goes.

I don’t have it all figured out and I probably never will.  But that’s ok and I’m going to have to be ok with knowing that.  It’s tough because I want so badly to do everything right.  But according to who’s level of right am I comparing that against?  Is it from the TV shows, the magazines, or social media outlets?  Time out!  Who say’s they are right.

I encourage all moms to lighten up, forgive yourself, and trust that your are doing a good job.  Stop comparing yourself to other moms or trying to parent according to someone else’s terms.  Don’t even try to be your mom.  Just parent!

I pray to be the mother God wants me to be.  To be loving to my children, to show God in the life I live so they may grow to do the same, and to encourage them to be the best they can be.

Forgiving others can be tough, but forgiving yourself is even harder.  Look yourself in the mirror, and say, “I forgive you” and show yourself some unconditional love!


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