This time last week I was in Orlando, Florida, gearing up for a week long business conference. I’m back home and my conference was amazing and most of all, I was able to relax from all my mom duties for a week. I learned a lot and I’ll return to work tomorrow with so much to share.
At breakfast on last Friday morning, I sat with a few ladies who are also moms and we were talking about the responsibilities we have as mothers. It’s so great to connect with other women who can understand my frustrations, joys, and emotions of motherhood.
Later in the day as I was on a break, I scrolled through Facebook to find out yet another celebrity had taken their own life. Earlier in the week, I heard of the suicide of famous designer Kate Spade. Let me preface my statement by saying I am not a licensed counselor or have no professional experience in giving life advice, however, I wanted to write this blog to encourage any mom who is struggling with the stresses of parenthood to find an outlet. Talk with someone, journal, share your feelings as opposed to keeping them inside. At first glance, we all want to judge others and say, “I’d never take my own life.” The fact is you don’t know what you’d do until the moment comes and you just don’t want to deal with life anymore because of the things you are going through. Don’t go it alone. That’s exactly why I started this blog. I was so stressed out with trying to be a good mom. My kids were misbehaving. I was and still am working full time outside the home and there was so much that needed to be done at home. I was feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, aggravated, and sometimes I’d get sad. I mean really sad. There were times I’d just break down crying or I’d be the complete opposite, and was totally aggressive. It’s like the joy was being sucked out of me with all that I had going on. I wanted to blog about it to share my feelings and experiences.
As humans we crave the love and attention of others, and we seek the approval of others. Well, don’t live life to please other people. You’ll never satisfy all their desires, you’ll never live up to the standards they’ve placed on you. I’m learning that I can only live to please one person in life, and that’s the God I serve, Jesus Christ. When people leave, He’s still there. When no one is around to call and talk to, He’s there. When you’ve tried to fix it all yourself and nothing seems to be working out, He’s there. I’ve suppressed emotions so I know what I’m talking about. It wasn’t healthy! Prayer has made a huge difference in my life and I encourage you to try it. Pray! Pray for direction on who you need to talk to when you feel down and out. You have to be able to trust when you share and you can’t talk to just anybody. Pray about how you feel and work through the emotional roller coaster. Pray via a journal and release all that pent up anger of parenting disobedient children! Start a blog! Like I said earlier, don’t feel you have to go it alone. We are a village and we need each other. Motherhood is an awesome responsibility, but the weight of it all can become very overwhelming if we allow it.
I’ve said all of this to say, take care of yourself. Do something for yourself, mom. Don’t let the stresses of life consume you to the point you lose yourself spiritually, emotionally, physically, or mentally. Step back and take a break. I know it’s hard, but you owe it to yourself to take care of you.
I leave you with this, Philippians 4:13 says
“I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me.”
He has given you the strength to mother. All are not called to this. He’s equipped you with the determination to produce a good child for society. Don’t be fooled by the pressures of everyone else. You got this! Take a break and take care of you so you can take care of what God has blessed you to oversee: your child(ren). If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask!